Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with my because "your not christian." I thought it was the most retarded reason for a break up ever, and I know it wasnt a cover up for some other reason. I would have been happier if she broke up with me because she was alesbian or something...and I'm not into lesbo's in the least bit. I just thought it kind of dumb, and very offending. She knew I wasnt religious when she got into the realtionship >.< Anyway, what do you guys think I should do, or share some weird break up reasons so I dont feel so angry at being the only non-religious person around. T.T

Your ex is a dumbass plainly said. If she had qualms with the non religious antics then she shouldn't have gotten into it with you. I'm not religious in any sense of the word but I'm not without morals. In my experiences I'm loathe to date christians or religious affiliated people. It seems stupid but then again so were my exs. I've never had a happy experience with a christian so hence my leery attitude about dating them.

Did she just find out you weren't christian or something? That's the only time I'd consider that excuse viable. Otherwise, it's just stupid.

i broke up with sumone cuz they lied to me about there age said he was 19 and he was realy 15 1/2 :'( i liked him to

breaking up over religious issues isnt dum but it is wrong to start a realationship with sum one knowing they arnt religious and then deside ur not willing to make it work

I know where you're coming from, guy. She shouldn't have dated you in the first place if she felt that strongly about it. I thought Christians were supposed to be accepting and tolerant of others? Three cheers for hypocrisy!

Thanks guys...a lot, keep posting, it makes me feel a lot better.

how long did u 2 date ?

I am a christian.. and I gotta say I have only dated one girl and she was a non-christan. actually every "christian" girl I grew up around was slutier then most the other girls i knew.. and before someone goes off on me.. i said the ones I grew up around.. it was part of their "rebelion" against relegion.
Anyways the only reason I can think of for her to use that as an excuse was because she enter the relationship prolly thinking that she could change you, found out she couldn't and then decided it was your fault... *jepordy buzzer* wrong answer.. the thing a lot of "christians" miss is that jesus never taught about changing or judging ppl, he taught about loving and accepting them. if she was looking for a serious relationship and was serious about her faith she never should have persued the close relationship. However this might not be entirly her fault.. if you weren't sensetive to her faith and things she belived in, she could have felt pressured or overwhelmed by you, resulting in the reaction. The biggest question I have.. How long where you 2 dating?

I don't accept the spontaneous Religious censure. There most assuredly had to to be another reason she broke up with you, perhaps one she was not comfortable relating to you. People will often lie if they think doing so will spare the feelings of another, I think that is the case here. I think the act of covering it up, meant that she either cares about your feelings, and wanted to make a painful act less painful, or she is truly selfish and wished to spare herself the emotional trauma of admiting the real reason. In either case, doing things the way she did trivialized the reason for the breakup, and hurt you more.

People are not perfect, they lie and hurt others, but she was clearly not happy in the relationship and felt it needed to end. I know this may seem difficult to see now, but count your blessings my friend that it ended cleanly and now. When a relationship drags on with one side miserable, the potential to get hurt even worse dramatically increases. Take your lumps and carry on, and consider it a life lesson.

Wow, I didnt think the warcry community was so caring :D. She told me that the person she was going to date had to be christian was "her first priority". We had been dating probably half a year and have been friends for at least 6-7 years, so we knew each other. She knew damn well that I will not change my beleifs for anyone. She also said that this was to make it less painful for the future...like she was planning something. Anyway, I'm walays caring and sensitive about other peoples beleifs and feelings, even if its about God whom i think is the biggest BS ever to meet the reocurring human mind. Thankyou guys VERY much, I never thought I would get this much feedback :D

If your so 'caring' and 'sensitive' then don't say that God is BS, because it hurts to hear something like that.

also 6-7 years!?? then that girl clearly doesn't know what she wants...

What I meant about god being BS is something I always keep to myself because I realize it is offensive. She never heard anything about that from me....

but the rest of us did...

ah nevermind that, everyone has his own reason and i respect that.

I'm a "Christian", but I personally feel like I'm more agnostic than anything. I'm not denying anything's "there", but I don't believe it's possible to prove if something is or is not. Heh, I could hardly last 3 years with my girlfriend. But she was so unlike me it was scary, although we were very "cute" together.

Only problem is now all the girls I'm falling for are taken. Guess there's only two choices for me:
1- become Rico Suave ;)
2- kill their boyfriends :D

I can't decide if the latter is better than the former.

I have but one Mistress, and her name is work. :SAD:

I would have to go with Nosebiter's assumption on this one. Since you knew your girlfriend for quite some time, it would be logical that she already knew about your beliefs on religion or at least that particular one. Or maybe, as stated previously by that other guy with a face (forget his name), she wanted to go out with you to see if she can change you.

Here is my tip for dating woman.

Go for girls without mustaches and who are big bootied and big breasted.
Treat them like objects and make them cook you dinner. If they start talking, give them a good smack in the face.

Once you do that, girls will be flocking by your door step and worship the ground you walk on.

GAZING!

leecho7 i am hurt!!

[B]Arreco wrote:[/b]

leecho7 i am hurt!!

Yeah that's my fault. I usually try not to hurt people except for babies and little kids. I try to drop kick them out of windows.
You should feel honored though, I called you 'the guy with a face.' I don't just call anyone that, only a select few.

Thats great advice, that reminds me....I think I'll take back my old hobby of beating kindergarteners over the head with judo sticks and wiffle-ball bats. :D

[Edited by Hellmare at 12:29 AM on 5/4/2005]

Heh well sorry to hear that, i was somewhat in that situation as well, girl dumped me cause one i was part black an 2 i wasnt jewish ^^ go figure.
But i am agnostic as well. Dunno seems being more open then closed minded is something i rather live by.

Yeah that's my fault. I usually try not to hurt people except for babies and little kids. I try to drop kick them out of windows.
You should feel honored though, I called you 'the guy with a face.' I don't just call anyone that, only a select few.

OK :) thats alright then!

I mean no flame or disrespect in saying this.
I grew up in a conservative christian family, to make it worse I grew up in an Asian family. Over the years I became more skeptical about religions, but became more facinated with the philosophies behind religions.
At campus, we always have some sort of fanatic preaching about non-christians going to hell calling them ignorant and whatever. The next day we would have a non-chrisitan stating christianity is wrong and how christians are ignorant.
It seems to me that the only thing understandable between different beliefs is ignorance. There is ignorance on both sides. From my experience it always seemed that both sides tried to make themselves look more 'holier than thou' or 'I got bigger nuts than you.'
This is just my viewpoint on this whole religion/no religion issue.

[B]<div style="display:none;">Saske_Uchiha</div> wrote:[/b]

Heh well sorry to hear that, i was somewhat in that situation as well, girl dumped me cause one i was part black an 2 i wasnt jewish ^^ go figure.
But i am agnostic as well. Dunno seems being more open then closed minded is something i rather live by.

Saske I respect you and all and by no means do I mean any disrespect or flame. Just because you state your agnostic doesn't exactly mean you're open minded. I know some chrisitans, buddhists, satanists (not the goth kind, but the ones who practice the philosophies of the First Church of Satan),Muslims, and Jews who are more open minded than aethiests and agnostics. Now if I have mis-interpreted your post let me know.

Since I kicked myself in the left nut for discussing religion on an internet forum, I'm going to go lie on the floor now.

Wow, i want to grow up around slutty christian girls. the only ones i know don't even drink. That reason alone makes it very hard for me to hit on them.

And pah, who needs women anyway? All you need is a couple of cushions, some vaseline and.......

Wait, am i still typing?

Hey MR Cheese, I got a 'video tape' that you might enjoy. It's called

Catholic Priests Gone Wild, featuring Snoop Dog.

It might change your way of thinking on trying to hit on Christians.

Awww yeah, those catholic priests know how to PARTY!

Hey my mom is on that tape! O.o

[B]Nosebiter wrote:[/b]

I have but one Mistress, and her name is work. :SAD:

Me too...:SAD: but I cheat on her on the weekends! :WINK:

As for beliefs, I think faith is a personal thing, it's something that helps complete, and comfort you when you neeed completion and comfort. It is not something you have to explain to someone, nor is it something you have to prove to someone. The entire concept of faith is just that, not hard scientific fact, it's belief in something intangible, in something you can't put your finger on. I think people by nature are insulting, and try to come down on peoples beliefs(in whatever) because it makes them feel more comfortable to bash something they can't see, or can't feel. Similar to how people people mocked Columbus when he said the world wasn't flat. Until someone is smashed in the face with cold, hard fact, their skepticism blinds them to the one basic fact, these beliefs make people happy, and you do not have the right to try and smash someones happiness.

I understand for younger people questioning everything is common, and it's a natural progression in life, and to be honest if I didn't see it I would be worried. However as you advance in life you start to realize that it doesn't matter if someone is a christian, or a Muslim, or Hebrew, what matters is the person. A religion does not make a person, it's a single aspect of that person. It is human nature to associate negative traits with people that oppose your current thought structure, but that doesn't make you right. Insisting what you believe is the truth to the exclusion of all others, is more closed minded then any faith could ever be, and makes you guilty of the same thing you accuse religion of doing. People who deny faith oddly enough do so with the same fervor as those who accept faith, in essence they have "faith" that there is no faith, amusing no? Please don't hang labels on people like price tags, based entirely on what diety they revere, that is more ignorant than anything else.

Before anyone thinks i'm a christian trying to defend religon, don't, because i'm not. I just wanted to throw a reality check into the mix. End rant, and i'll return to bizzare one lined responses.

Yup... amen to that. For me, I just can't bring myself to base my life on the teachings of some book written before the birth of knowledge by men who thought the world was flat... people in those days were ignorant and superstitious, so as far as I'm concerned, it's all unrelated to fact... I also think that organized religion has caused more harm than good over the years. You can believe whatever you want, and that doesn't bother me. However, when people come to my door (I live 2 blocks from a Seminary) and try to tell me how I'm going to hell, that ceases to be a privately held belief and becomes them being jackasses. Yeah, also crashing planes into buildings in the name of "Allah"... that too.

[B]Hellmare wrote:[/b]

Hey my mom is on that tape! O.o

now my childhood has become even more disturbed by perverts :SAD:

[B]Nosebiter wrote:[/b]

End rant, and i'll return to bizzare one lined responses.

Yeah... when it comes to people arguing about religion this is the best type of response to give.

I'm not too horribly bad at them myself. :GRIN:

[B]Greever wrote:[/b]

Thanks... enjoy your ban. :ANGRY:

Okay for one I'm not going to get into the religious/non-religious discussion, but from a girls perspective. This really sounds more like a quick way out for her. She knows that you know her beliefs therefore not questioning her motives when she says that she is leaving you because of your faith. She knew full well what your opinions and beliefs were before she got into the relationship. So in all honestly I would say that it was her easy way out. No one can have guilt if they make themselves believe they have a legitimate reason for doing something(to an extent though). I really hope you have better experiences with your next gf. A person should never put restrictions on a relationship after they get into it, but sadly it does happen.

Sorry to hear that man.

I hate to sound like a jerk, but you may have lucked out on this one. Any woman that's so rapped up in a set of beliefs that she'll base serious relationship decisions on them would most likely have been nothing but trouble anyway.

As I've advised in the past, lick your wounds and get back on the horse. If you can pull it off, sleep with one of her friends and give her a great big smile the next time you see her. If you're feeling particularly evil, make comments about how she could take lessons from the friend that you bagged.

Yes, I'm a soulless scoundrel, but I've been forged into the bitter tool retribution that I am by crazy womens and their crazy drama. Besides, most of my mind-screw arsenal was provided by protective female friends. So NYA!

Ey leecho7 =)
I always forget to state but when speaking of matters like this im only speaking of myself. i have no clue what goes on in the mind of others.

Though yea you are 100% correct about your agnostic statement.

[B]TargetPractice wrote:[/b]

If you can pull it off, sleep with one of her friends and give her a great big smile the next time you see her. If you're feeling particularly evil, make comments about how she could take lessons from the friend that you bagged.

Her friends arent exactly appealing to the eye O.o